Friday, August 29, 2014

interesting life hacks xx

Hey lovelies!

OMG Has it been forever since I last posted. I am working on a post that will allow you all to catch up with me. SO much has been going on with me -- verry verry good stuff, and of course can't have the good without the verrrrry verrrrrrry bad stuff! So tune in for that within the next couple weeks. I wanted to quickly post this post as I came across it in my email and thought it was so fun and interesting, I just had to share with all of you! I hope you enjoy! ;)

Life Hacks!

I would use this idea in my bathroom for my blow dryer, straightener, curling iron, etc
It works perfectly for both I would have to say.

I have live in a small apartment and think this is just genius. I am so excited to try it as I have very limited counter space, and have a lot of kitchen items on my counters that take up room such as my blender, toaster, coffee maker, etc

I really wonder if this one here works. I am sure you have to have the exact grip and movement. I would probably be there for minutes trying to get it open haha

This is pretty known... news paper or paper towels.. or here's something --

YES! I so need to do this as my Zippers go down to regularly because I wear my jeans so tight!

So this looks like it takes up a lot of room in your fridge, but it also holds quite a bit. It can be a good idea, but not one I am willing to try. 

This is a good idea; however I throw my tape rolls in my junk drawer, basement, etc and I could imagine what kind of dirt and dust that exposed sticky part would pick up. It isn't a big deal, but when you're a wuss like me-- id constantly be worried about spiders whenever I go to grab it lol

I actually use the hangers in the picture below this one to hold my boots up on the closet rack; however some times with my leather boots I will get an imprint of the clasp in my boots and that isn't good because it doesnt come out..

Who'da Thunk it!?

I already knew this one as well.. Some are pretty common-place. It works very well!

I am SUPER excited to try this one!! Those bottles are so sturdy and thick, theyd make for EXCELLENT cups. I am determined to do this this weekend!!

This is GENIUS! Some of these are kind of like, DUH moments. Why havent I thought of that!?

At work, this happened to me, and I actually used one of these prior to seeing this image, and it works great! I was bummed when I saw I wasn't the first one to think of doing it LOL

Not really sure if this one works or not.. I wouldnt think the sticky part is strong enough to grab onto all the dust. I will try it and let you all know though!

How cool is this one!? So neat and resourceful. Who needs a baby bath when you have this. Get a tub Pillow for the younger babies, and you're good to go!

I am excited to tell my Boyfriend this one for his yard!

This one below works great, but a lot of dirt and dust gets trapped on the velcro as well believe it or not.

When I worked at a pizza restaurant-- a lot of the drivers told me about this. Unfortunately people tend to order 2 liters and not smaller, so unless you had an empty small size bottle in your car... this wont really help.

My boyfriend uses this one below for his lunch. It works very good. My girl friend also puts sun screen lotion in it for the kids at the beach, easy application, and you wont over use.

I really want to try this one below... Can you imagine how good of a scrub that would get?
I'm a cleaning nut, so I get excited over this stuff! lol

This one below I already knew and used.. I use this for my Bullet & Blender

I am so using this idea very soon. This is so ideal as I am on my laptop for hours at a time, and sometimes my lap or table gets so hot I feel like I should turn my laptop off to give it a break. But when you have a lot to do, its almost impossible to do that. So here is a very good solution!

This works great! I tried it! Who would've thought!?

&& the one I found MOST helpful and am excited to try is ...

Thank you for reading guys and gals! I hope some of these help you out in your day to day lives just as they have me. If you know of any others, please let me know. I would be very happy to add them to the list!
Until then, take care and have yourselves a very amazing and safe Labor Day weekend. So sad Summer is almost over =[ I have to live it up these last few weeks, that is FOR SURE!!

Toodles!! *
Rica Marie 

Monday, August 25, 2014

need to get out of this funk --

If you ever been depressed, then maybe you know where I’m coming from. It’s like one minute you’re fine, and the next minute something happens that makes you think— i mean really think — and then you’re totally empty. The only thoughts that are in your head are negative and it makes you feel totally done, like you don’t mean anything to anyone.

All you want to do is tell someone how you feel, but you don’t want their pity, even if you could tell someone, nothing would come out right. You don’t want to laugh, or smile, or whine, or argue or be stubborn or difficult, you just want to go to bed and cry and hope this feeling passes, and sometimes it does, but it always seems to come back.

You think that all your friends hate you and only talk to you because they feel bad for you. You know complete strangers judge you just because of how you look and act, and when you think about how you’re not as beautiful as the crowd that surrounds you, it makes you feel even worse. And of the two people that are supposed to love you the most in the world, one left you, and the other is exceptional, but at the same time is still that you can love forever, who will never cheat on you or play you, who will go out of his way to make you happy but then again not get past his own pride when it comes to certain situations.

Sometimes you just want to give up, you want so desperately to be alone, but at the same time fear it so much. You know how it feels to know that your not a bad person, just sometimes do bad things, just sometimes have bad habits, just some times let your emotions get the better of you... that you desperately do not want to let your friends down and always try your hardest not to be selfish, isolated, self conscious, bitter, whiny, or obsessive.

so you listen to what everyone else has to say, but you never tell them how you feel, because that would mean revealing part of yourself, and you just can’t do that; you can’t let anyone really know you. And your opinions wouldn’t matter to them anyways, and most of all if you took the time to sit down and try to get all your feelings out for the first time in your life, it would be completely over whelming.

Gosh.. I need to get out of this funk.


Saturday, August 16, 2014

break up schmake up.. it aint no thang

I swear whoever wrote the lyrics to "breaking up is hard to do" was right on the money. unfortunately the odds are not in us ladies' favors when it comes to this traumatic experience, lol. in fact, most of us will experience at least one heart breaking break up sometime in our lines, and 1 out of every 3 female experience one that leads them to having mental issues that can severely affect her life. although no one can fully prepare you for and there are a few breakup words that will ease your pain, i can at least try to.. lol i'll always still believe advice goes a long way.

So listen up biiiiiits!!! here is how you can be closer to healing your broken heart.

Here are my stages of grief that i think girls will most likely experience throughout a break up.. the five stages of grief as they apply to a breakup that is:

denial: && "no it's not just a river in across seas". you deny the break-up has happened and isolate yourself from your loved ones. to help get through this stage, accept what has happened and don’t be afraid to ask for support from those who love you and are there for you.. i know you might not want to hear it but face the fucken truth && do it. without doing this first step, you will not make it to the second. you might tell yourself this is just a temporary separation; you’re bound to kiss and make up.

resisting the urge: i knowwww it’s difficult to fight the urge to get in touch with your ex, but you have to resist it. && yes, this means no making up excuses to see him (I have to get back my one sock back or you know he’ll be at that party on Saturday night). etc. been there done that .. and the visits only lead to super hot, yet amazingly amazing sex that gives him the upper hand yet again.You have to say NO.

anger: it's only natural to become angry with your ex and maybe even with yourself for the cause or circumstances of the breakup. personally, what i did to help deal with my anger was wrote a letter addressed to my ex, without the intention of giving it to him of course, cus i'd probably hit a nerve no girl wants to hit. It is amazing how you can really get down and dirty with your feelings, and how you end up pouring your heart out once the point of your pen leaks onto the paper. After you’re done, put it aside and come back to it another day, reread it once, then toss it if you want. i actually saved all of mine, mainly because i didn't really write them when we broke up because we only have once, but more so when we got into an argument or at a time i felt incredibly hurt by him.. i go back to them after a while and it's weird how i have a totally new perspective on things. this eventually lead to me keeping a journal of my feelings. Looking back on the things I wrote reminded me of our low points. I needed that reminder to get away from him, and stay.

Ladies, this method works best for me because i think writing can be incredibly therapeutic. i know most not feel this way, but obviously with my having my own blog site, i'm going to feel taht way.

bargaining: this is probably the most common thing females tend to do.. i can almost guarantee it, don't deny it. you bargain with your ex to take you back, telling him that you were wrong, what changes you’ll make, and so on. Or, you get others involved in trying to get him back for you. This stage often involves irrational actions such as calling him no matter how trivial the reason. i couldnt tell you how many times i went "oh well i stopped dressing like a hoe cus i knew that pissed him off more than anything. etc. come on. don't fall lame to the game baby girls! you have to be on top of it, have HIM come crawling back to you!

acceptance: this is about the final stage of grief i think we all endure. the female typically comes to terms with the breakup, and she no longer feels anger or deep sadness about it. While thinking about your ex is still normal, you’re able to move on with your life to be productive and emotionally healthy again. Some females have a hard time coming to this stage, I think it takes an incredible amount of strength and dignity to even follow through with passing this stage. With acceptance comes the ability to move on.

But you shouldn’t expect all of the above to happen overnight. It will take time, faith in yourself and a supportive group of friends and family to get you through.

the most important thing i can say ladies is back away from zeee ex!!! real talk! i know you're in the bargaining stage of grieving the demise of a what seemed to be an amazing relationship, so you may try to get in touch with him. But, there are two reasons why calling, emailing or visiting his crib is a BAD idea. why? because just because you convince yourself that your ex is thinking about you just as much as you're thinking about him. he's not. but the next reason is the more contact you have with him, the less likely you’ll be able to move on. Every time you write to him, talk to him or visit his house, you’re taking a step backward instead of forward. not only that but it makes you look completely desperate and gives him the upper hand.

i seriously only think of these two specific quotes when i think of getting over a break up and/or when healing a broken heart: “Time heals all wounds” and “Where one door closes, another one opens.” i know, kind of cheesy but absolutely true . while you may not be able to see the light at the end of the dark tunnel now, ii can guarantee that the day will come when you’ll know that your broken heart has officially healed.

good luck girls.

xox rica

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

jealousy is the root of all evil

Jealousy can make people truly evil. I write about the insane antics of jealous friends all the time. I really think  jealousy can only make a person look weak in the end. I have no sympathy for such a tragic character flaw. I do have sympathy, however, for my friend that I went to visit out of town, and is now visiting me from out of town. Let’s call her Erica.

Erica and I met in high school and I was immediately drawn to her outgoing, fun personality. We made our otherwise boring classes go by fast with lots of inside jokes and funny stories. I truly fell in love with everything about her. One thing that was apparent from the very beginning was that Erica was extremely self conscious about her weight. She always made awkward comments about how fat she was and that no man would ever love her. Of course I disagreed and honestly meant it, but no person could ever convince her that she was beautiful. I tried and I tried but I always ended up failing.

Last night, we got dressed up in really hot outfits and headed to the river walk for a little night out on the town. After a couple of strong mixed drinks at the house, of course, thankfully my boyfriend was there to drive us, because the moment we stepped out my door, the world began to spin and there was nothing the two of us didn’t find hilarious. (( Note: it was just her and I in Naperville - Not sure why we chose that town, but hey .. )) We danced and we sang and we even found a stage to dance on all in a matter of 45 minutes. It was shaping up to be a perfect night out with a good friend… until a really hot guy hit on me.

We were taking a breather from all the fun when he approached me from out of no where and began talking to me. I typically shrug guys off that hit on me because I am so used to bitching them out from being in a relationship for ..uh my entire life. lol But because of the fighting with my boyfriend, i was beginning to think of how many nice guys i've turned down and to see if maybe i should be more open to finding some one  else....that's a post for another time. 😌

This guy though.. There was an instant connection and no sooner than I could blink, he pulled me out on the dance floor and the two of us began breaking it down Dirty Dancing style. I was in absolute heaven. He smelled good, he was in great shape, and he knew how to move… a deadly combination if you are looking to get my attention. I almost felt inferior because it had been so long that I danced with a MALE. I mean, it's only natural and fun to rub my ass into my best friend's body without her thinking twice about it. I mean hell, I could strip naked in front of my bestie and she could still carry on a conversation with me like I were fully clothed... lol

I only stayed with him for few minutes or so because i started feeling guilty because i was after all in a relationship.. i know i shouldn't have but i just figured there has to be another way.. i almost felt like i was cheating. I also didn’t want to leave Erica by herself so when I returned to the table, I was dying to know if she caught a glimpse of he and I with each other. After being given what was quite possibly the dirtiest look on earth, she turned her head away from me and continued watching the dance floor.

OK then.

A few minutes later, the hot guy returned and after acknowledging me with a hug, he introduced himself to her and the two of them began chatting. I thought maybe i can turn into playing cupid, and the two of them can get to know each other better. He left again and she told me that she told him she would leave the two of us alone so we could go have sex somewhere.


.... Flashback time

Crazy bitch Michelle, and her delusional idea of me trying to fuck her boyfriend when she knows i'm taken && not into black men either way.... Crazy bitch Riley and the threats she posted on my locker at work cus i made more money than her. Crazy bitch Nina (PERIOD) My sweet friend Erica had fallen into the crazy bitch category and I completely and totally lost it. I stormed out of the bar and when she followed me, I turned around and I let her have it. Yes people, I was the girl screaming at another girl outside of a bar. Real typical. Basically if the situation was different and the guy hit on her, I would be expected to take pictures of them dancing, ask every detail about him, and sit around while they made out for an hour. When the guy talks to me, I get nothing but dirty looks and snide comments. I said all of this but made it as mean as possible, making sure to throw in some “how dare you’s” and some “I can’t believe you’s”. My angry, drunk ass then stormed down the street, tripping over side walk cracks, swinging my purse dramatically, trying to answer a text. I was a fucking hurricane.

Erica lingered behind and when I got to the car with -him- waiting for me, I held the door for her but continued my walk of rage all the way to my house 20mins away. It was here where the storms calmed and I passed out in exactly what I was wearing in a position that suggested I may have actually screwed the hot guy.😂 The next morning was awkward and all that was mentioned about the previous night was an “I’m sorry” from her. I never accepted it but I didn’t act pissy the entire next day either. There was really no point.

So here I sit, writing this absurdly long blog post about a rather absurd evening, and all I can hear is the soft breathing of my friend. Erica. She is sleeping on my bed and every time some idiot blasts his horn or slams on his brakes, she awakens with the intensity of an on-call firefighter. Country girls… ha! I glance over every time she shuffles and I can’t help but feel overwhelming guilt for the reaction I had last night. She didn’t deserve that rage. Susan did. So did Riley and Nina. But I held it all in and took it out on a loved one who unintentionally tapped into her own inner demons at the very same time I did. God damn booze.

But if we weren’t drunk, would we have just fantasized about strangling each other? Was it even necessary to show our true emotions? Or is this… how crazy bitches are born?

xox rica


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