Tuesday, December 10, 2013

forgetting the past & looking towards the future xx

 Hey there bloggers,

I want to get serious for this post. I know, a bit out of the norm, but its very much needed. i'm not where I want to be but thank GOD, I'm not where I used to be. I'm OK, and i'm on my way. && that makes me VERY content right now.

But as i sit in this place i shall call my temporary home, i turn on my TV to catch a few minutes of a program about the children of convicts on E!. I believe the message of this program was that you don’t have to follow in your parents’ footsteps. The program ended with the following comment made by one of the children: “It’s not where you come from… it’s where you choose to go.”

as I heard that comment, I was reminded of all the people who feel trapped in their present life due to their past. I’m sure there are many of you reading this today who feel like a prisoner because of your past. Well, I’m here to challenge that belief and reiterate the wisdom that I heard on that TV program. So regardless of where you come from, the question really is… where are you choosing to go?

i know when it comes to letting go of the past, there are so many challenges that can arise from even trying to do so. But I wanted to point out at least a few reasons why i think you should just go for it, and see where it takes you!

reason #1: you SURVIVED.

what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. no matter what you have been through! if you are reading this, then you have survived your troubles! that should be a good enough reason to move on and make yourself a better person for the future. never let anyone bring you down and tell you that you should be sad over anything.

disclaimer: unfortunately, there have been some people who went through just as much as you went through and didn't make it out of the situation. i have not completely disregarded these people, so please don't consider me being ignorant that i assumed we all have survived each trial and tribulation because that is soo not the case..i am merely trying to point out that one should be glad and rejoice that he or she has made it to another stage in their life.

reason #2: resentment = more problems

Just face it. Nobody likes to be around a person who is always dwelling over the past. When you are just beginning to move on from any situation that may have happened to you and you make better situations worse by comparing them to your past. That is not the way to be. If you start to notice things are getting better, then take them for what they are. Do not try to nit-pick them and make them into bad situations when they are not. It is logical, that when you start to appreciate all the good around you and let go of resentment, that more good will follow for you.

reason #3: you're more than likely the ONLY person lingering on this.

I can almost guarantee someone, somewhere let this issue go a loooooong time ago. Usually, if you've had a bad experience with another person that caused you pain and betrayal, they do not hold the problem over their heads like you may be. This is bad, because it may mean that they let it go and may have had indifferent emotions towards what you call pain. So, the best thing for you to do is to act indifferent towards it. If not, then it shows that the person still has some sort of power over you that you just cannot seem to let go. So, prove to yourself that you have complete control over your emotions. You are the only person that you may need to prove that to.

i hope all that makes sense. i know i should practice what i preach, but for some reason i have always been better at giving advice as opposed to listening to it. i seem to deal with this quite often myself. i'm going through a difficult time right now, but i am not dwelling on playing the victim role-- i am dwelling on the fact that i have SURVIVED. i have made it through the hardest part of this ordeal, and only the best is yet to come. what has been does not have to affect what could be, and i really have to let that seep through my bird brain. ;)

so here i am now, tuning into the boob tube. just a second ago, i lost the remote in my covers, so i tossed the blanket & the remote flies towards my face with ninja speed! legit had a heart attack. but now, i am tuning in on the season finale of Sons of Anarchy. WOW, it is so good! I legit cried at the ending, even though I cannot stand Jax's wife Tara. I really wish they had casted me for her part, hehe ;) And also thinking.. wow, i am really infatuated with Charlie Hunnum. All that yumminesss!!! Back to the topic at hand, thank you all for baring with me with this post. I know it is very different from the norm; however I think posts like these are very much needed even if once a year. After all self reflection is the best way to move forward in life. I have been reflecting on my life quite a bit lately; and rather than feeling unfulfilled or upset with it, i realize life is a rollercoaster. It is a rollercoaster that I am sometimes very frightened by-- so much that i do not want to open my eyes at what is in front of me. As well as at other times I am opening my arms wide open ready to take in all that is coming my way. Either way it goes, this is a rollercoaster I am NOT getting off any time soon.

Thanks for reading, i love you all so much!

Rica xox


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  2. Sue FlandroMay 31, 2011

    Pretty amazing...keep it going and don't worry about what anyone else has to say !!

  3. thx for stopping by pretty (:
    followed u already ^^

    1. thanks love! followed you as well <33

  4. thanks dropping by my blog
    im following u back now

  5. Just followed you back hun!
    Kee pin touch!


    1. thank you carolyne -- youre the best! xo

  6. nice:)
    maybe we will follow each other on GFC? let me know :) (on facebook too if you have )

  7. This post is quite motivational and I wanted to thank for writing it. I agree with everything you have written in here especially #2! I don't think the past should affect who you choose to be in the future because you are your own self. I'm pretty sure that I have seen that special on E and I feel really bad for the children.
    I know I tend to be a negative person sometimes when I am stressed and that's not good for me because not much good comes out of being negative.. plus your friends began to hate being around you. Being positive will bring good luck to you!

    I enjoyed this post a lot and yes, it is good to self reflect especially since the year is almost over! I hope you are feeling good now =) Life is a rollercaoster, but I try to remember that good things do happen! Plus without bad experience in our life once in a while, we won't learn to be thankful for the good things in life! Stay strong and enjoyed the rest of this year! =)


    1. thank you so much for your lovely comment mindy. I really want my blog to be more than just a beaty blog -- I always feel I have a lot to say and doing so on here acts more of a therapeutic technique than anything else. and if it helps even one person, then that makes it so much better.

      that e! special was such a tearjerker, but so true on so many different levels.

      thanks again for commenting! xo

  8. hi beautiful :) thanks for following my blog !! i am following your blog via GFC#62 :) have a lovely day my dear !! xx

    1. thank you my love! I will follow you back and look forward to future post of yours!

  9. Hi Rica!!! Lovely post! everything you write is so true! and inspirational! definitely got me thinking :) I was actually reading really old blog posts I posted from 2010 (another personal blog) earlier today and I was so focused on the bad and made myself feel bad and blamed myself for everything that was happening... your advice on this post is so good. Can't wait to read more of your posts! I am now following on bloglovin and g+ (my GFC isn't working, gives me error every time!). Thanks for stopping by my blog! have a great one! xx
    - Andrea

  10. this is quite a great motivational wake me up post, i'm sure everbody had their own past and still hadn't find a way to move on. hope you're okay , because every mistake we made is a lesson to learn ( :

    sure i followed you
    do follow back ( :

    1. you are absolutely right chickadee! I have just been dwelling on different things goingon in my life right now, nothing specific and I am sure it is just a phase I am going thru right now. but thanks for your concern, and thank you for commenting!!! xo

  11. Hi sweetie, I don't know if you realize but Google has delete the GFC and I'm triyng to get in touch with people that I was following and that was following me back to ask to follow each other on Bloglovin' so that we can stay in touch. I will follow you right back. Thank you, Kisses Ana

    1. My GFC seems to be working just fine ... ?

    2. GFC has been acting a bit funky. Recently the gfc widget on my blog wasn't letting people join. I had to delete the widget and replace it, to get it working. It seems to only be for certain people.

  12. Thanks so much for the wonderful post and the comment you left on my blog. I love heartfelt posts such as this. I am following you on gfc.

    1. absolutely !! I really love your blog -- so unique and you can tell you put so much into it. keep up the great work!!


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