Tuesday, June 11, 2013

self control

i seriously have so many topics going through my mind right now, that i decided to write about none of them and instead turn to something that i have been lacking lately.

&& that is self control.

self-control is a vital part of who we are. Thoughts are our foundation because they direct our feelings. People with high self control don’t react to someone else’s emotions. They are able to think clearly and stay focused under pressure. No one can control the events or the people surrounding them, but they can control their own emotions and actions. I personally like to think i maintain self control in thee situations, but when i am alone i tend to slip.

[ x ] one thing i do to exercise my self control is choosing what i think about. when i feel i am able to control what feelings my thoughts are producing, i feel as if i am able to dictate what i will do or will not do, which in return leads me to be careful on what i dwell on.

[ x ]  i try not to let my feelings get the best of me. if, for instance, i know i am upset with someone or i am craving something i know i should not consume or have, i do something to get my mind off the situation; listen to music, write on this blog, scrapbook, write letters to my lil sister or jail bird friends ;) lol, exercise, or read to name a few. And if i still find myself dwelling on those things, i just simply pick up on another activity again.. and yes, this may take me doing this same activity several times before i am able to conquer your feelings but i eventually am able to do it.)

[ x ] this one may seem a bit obvious and silly, but really taking deep breaths is very VERY helpful. it seems to just calm me down, and also takes my mind off of it for a while. this is most helpful when i feel like i am losing my mind!

these basic little things are what i do to give myself a bit more control, and this is where perseverance comes it. it won’t be better the first time you try to have control but like everything else you will be able to control yourself better and faster with practice.

the reason why i wanted to make a blog out of this is because i'd like to point out that i don't think self control is only about keeping your cool when you are angry. it's concept is more than that, it can also be about not complaining about a situation or someone, or even waiting to get something you really want now, or even choosing not to eat that extra cookie. these situations can affect our every day lives, and that is why i believe it is important to instill self control into ourselves so our younger generations can fall onto it as well. maybe by doing this we will have less anger impulse shootings and murders going on, especially those done by teens being angry at their parents for not letting them spend the night at a friend's house one night or something minute like that... :/

a quote by Aristotle was said to me by my sophomore year English teacher that has stuck with me ever since.. it's “I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self.”

the greatest victories we can have in our life is over ourselves. Self-control might be hard, but it is possible. encourage yourself and others to maintain control over themselves.

xox rica


hey lovers & friends,

i want to tell you about a messed up thing that happened to me back in the beginning of 2013, I started a blog. it was just a fun idea at first but then I slowly and steadily realized it kept me sane. through the happy times and the sad, I was able to be open and honest for the first time and it felt good. good in a way that some people only feel when they are drunk or stoned. Good like you are about to have amazing sex with a person you love. Just freaking good, okay!? I do feel blessed to be able to reach this incredible high by merely putting words together and I am confident that my friends and family understand this. what they don’t get about me is the fact that I live a double life. I am a smart, shy, modest person but there is a side of me that is extremely… extreme. i will not say, but it is not detrimental to my health, and it's not illegal. It is just something that makes me feel like I am flying and I don’t think that is so bad. this is the part where some people disagree.

Just recently, i learned that an e-mail was sent to both of my parent’s personal e-mail addresses which contained my site address. And by recently, I mean a couple of weeks ago. The person who wrote this said that my life was spiraling out of control and that I was headed down the wrong path. if you recall anything about my previous posts, you would understand that what I was writing was not for the eyes of my parents. atleast not yet. i wrote about my problems and thoughts going on in my head, that YES my parents were the root of. I was planning on publishing my work and approaching them with a book, which I consider tangible evidence that I am not heading down the wrong path. That I have been in control the whole time and I have something to show for it.

when does life ever go according to plan?

this person out there felt the need to take this matter into their own hands, something I consider selfish and vindictive. They obviously wanted to see me fall. Yes, asshole, I did fall and I felt terrible for days. You won round one. What is particularly maddening about the situation is the fact that this person is still a mystery. my parents refuse to send me the e-mail because they made a “promise” to the person that they wouldn’t. So in an effort to shield myself from the pain of betrayal, I abandoned this blog and started a new blog. A blog that hardly anyone knew about in which I wrote three posts. I talked about who I suspected of such treachery and the "harm" i was supposedly the person may have been referring to. I basically just vented. It took me a week to realize that I was being a complete coward and with that realization came the rebirth of this blog.

In conclusion, here is my FUCK YOU to the person that went behind my back.

Here is my welcoming to the site for my parents.

&& most importantly, here is round two.

xox rica

Wednesday, June 05, 2013

a word from the wise

I try not to be spiteful.

But sometimes its the best method of revenge, and I will say it right now I can be a very vengeful person.

You mess with my friends, my relationship, or my family and I will tear you into a million pieces.
Most likely I won't hit you physically, not because I can't, but because I love mental games. You will become a piece I move around and force into self-destruction. If you don't want to deal with me, don't make yourself a part of my life.
Leave my name out of your conversations and out of your mind, otherwise I am involved and

I am going to finish whatever it is you started.

I don't start anything, no not at all. I don't have the time nor the motivation to care about someone else in a malicious manner, but if you involve yourself in my life I'll make the time.

sorry, but ill make your bitchassness is my entertainment for the day.

It is stated OVER and OVER... I will FUCK your shit up.

that's all, have a nice day :))

my girl nicki minaj is one awesome female. nicki minaj crazy hair and crazy style sets her apart from all the other mainstream female artists trying to do it but aint nobody do it like nicki minaj. she explains what i try to say ever so sweetly. :)

xox rica


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